You might have heard people say that they are “perfectionists” or even that they want to attain perfection in something or the other.
Well, let me be the first one to tell you that nothing in the world is perfect. The whole idea of perfection is kind of an illusion.
I mean, think about it for a second. No matter how good something or someone is, you will always find flaws in them. It could be a very small flaw but it will be there.
The world that we live in worships perfection and everybody seems to be running after it. When it is about things, it’s still understandable, but when it’s about human beings, it’s a huge no-no. We humans can never be perfect.
At least, that’s what I think.
But our obsession with perfection is causing us to think that we are somehow not already enough for this world or for our own selves.
Naturally, this can lead to a number of psychological issues and they may manifest in your life in a number of ways.
So, it’s critical that you learn how to embrace your imperfections and lead a happy life regardless.
Let’s take a look at 10 easy ways to embrace imperfection to change your life now and stop wasting time and energy trying to reach perfection…
1. List and Focus On Your Strengths
I don’t know what it is about us humans that we simply love to dwell on the wrongs, the imperfections, and the bads of life rather than bring to focus the good and the beautiful.
Maybe it’s the way we evolved or maybe it’s something else.
But irrespective of that, it’s vital to shift your attention from your flaws to your strengths.
It can be easy to underestimate your abilities and overestimate your imperfections. Don’t fall in that trap!
Instead, you need to sit down and make a list of all the good things about you.
Believe me, you will end up being pleasantly surprised when you discover that you have a lot more strengths than weaknesses. This will give you the much needed change of perception about yourself.
2. Learn To Take Compliments
These days, when someone compliments you, the first thought that might crop up in your head is that they are not being genuine.
We tend to believe that the other person might be trying to flatter us to serve their own hidden agenda or maybe that they are just trying to be nice.
Even if you don’t think that the other person has an ulterior motive, you might not believe them.
You might have an inferiority complex that just doesn’t let you think that you too have good qualities. You need to flush this way of thinking and start to take compliments more seriously.
Anyway, how can we know if it is genuine or not ?
Can we read people’s mind?
A big fat NO.
So, instead of wasting energy analysing and guessing, just take it as it is. A compliment. It could be fake or it could be genuine…who knows?
So, why choose the worst option? Let’s focus instead on the fact it could be genuine.
In fact, this will also help you focus more on your strengths rather than just your flaws.
3. Realize The Impossibility of Perfection
The whole world tries to make you think that you should strive for perfection in your work, personal life, your physical appearance, and so on.
However, sooner or later, you need to realize that the very concept of perfection is just impossible.
Sure, striving for perfection might help people do better and improve over time, but getting stuck on it, is insanity!
You are a human being and you are bound to have flaws. Every single person on the planet does! So what?
There isn’t a single person on the planet that can claim that they are absolutely perfect.
So, why do you bring yourself down thinking you are different than everybody else? Realize the absurdity of flawlessness and just move on from it today!
4. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others
It is often said that comparison is the thief of happiness. Whoever said this first must have been a really wise person.
I know, it’s human nature to look around and compare ourselves to others. But think about what this tendency leads to.
I am sure you already know the answer. All it does is make you unhappy. You start feeling that you are below everyone else in one or the other way.
Well, if you have to compare things, why not compare imperfections?
Notice how other people have flaws too and they are living happily regardless.
By thinking this way, you will be inspired to do the same. You will stop stressing about it, learn how to embrace your imperfections and go by your life the way you want to!
5. Embrace Imperfection In Others
A great way you can learn to embrace your own flaws is by embracing them in other people. You can’t keep pointing out other people’s flaws and expect to not be bothered by yours.
You see, at the end of the day, it is all about perspectives.
If you are the kind of person who sees imperfections everywhere and are irked by them, well, you need to change your way of thinking.
I know, this can be easier said than done.
So, you could start by simply accepting other people the way they are.
Be non-judgmental and shift your attention to all the good and beautiful things about them. Slowly, you will learn to do the same for yourself as well.
Soon, you will realize that it’s completely okay to not be perfect.
6. Let Go Of Unhealthy Self-Criticism
You know what a nagger is?
A nagger is a person who constantly annoys other people by pointing out their flaws.
I am sure you must have come across such a person at least once in your life. It was certainly horrible spending time with them, wasn’t it?
Now, think how annoying it must be if you are a nagger yourself. Not for other people, but for your own self.
Most people might not realize this but they nag themselves continuously by unconsciously pointing out their own flaws.
This self-critic can be really bothersome and the only sane thing to do is to let them go.
I promise you won’t feel nostalgic about that part of you. In fact, it will allow you to embrace the very flaws that you used to nag yourself about.
You will see that they are not as bad as you had made them out to be in your mind.
7. Learn To Laugh At Yourself
These days, people don’t know how to laugh at themselves.
Somewhere in history something must have happened to make us into really serious humans.
Have you noticed how defensive people can get if you start talking about their flaws?
Even if the intention behind pointing out their flaws might be positive, they quickly get hurt or defensive about it.
This might be because they are ashamed of their imperfections. So, they feel the need to hide them. This is the opposite of what you want to do.
You will find that if you take on a more relaxed view of your “self”, and learn to laugh at yourself more, it will be much easier to not get shaken by your flaws.
8. Ask Yourself: Is It Really A Flaw?
This is perhaps the second most important question you should ask yourself.
As we all know, the most important question is “Should I eat ice-cream today?” The answer to that is always a yes! ( ok i am addicted haha)
Anyway, most of the time, something that we might consider as a flaw, might not be a flaw at all!
Imagine living your whole life believing a lie!
So, sit down in silence and ask yourself whether you have been wrongly judging yourself all along. I am sure there are at least a handful of qualities that you might have been thinking were imperfections but they were actually not!
If you need help with this, you can always consult with your family and friends. You can always rely on them to dispel your misconceptions (especially about you).
9. Recognize That They Are A Part of You
It is obvious that every single person on the planet is unique.
Not only do they look different than the others, they also have different dreams, desires, strengths, weaknesses and so on.
The thing is, every single attribute about them contributes to their uniqueness. Yes, even their so-called flaws.
This is something that more people should recognize and embrace.
No matter how bad your flaws are, they are a part of you.
They play a huge role in defining who you are at this moment in time and who you might become in the future.
Think of it this way, we are all like statues and we all have our own unique patterns of cracks that make us one of a kind…
10. Be Around Positive People
Positive people are really the light of this world.
Not only do they shine themselves, they help others to do the same.
You need to surround yourself with more people like these. The reason is simple and I don’t think you need me to even tell you.
But let me do it anyway haha.
When you see that these positive people in your life are happy and have an unapologetic way of living, you will be inspired to do the same.
Has it ever happened to you, where you noticed a clear flaw in someone and yet they were so nonchalant about it?
They might have even seemed to love it. This is the thing about positive people. They motivate you to accept everything about yourself or see your flaws in a new light.
This way of living and thinking is insanely powerful and you need to try this for yourself. Trust me.
I really hope these 10 tips to embrace imperfection will be helpful and really encourage you to let go of that “silly” quest of perfection. You can be better, of course, but don’t go overboard and learn somehow to appreciate your flaws. They truly make you unique.