You know, when you are a kid, everyone pays so much attention to you.
Everyone tends to your needs and sees to it that you are happy at all times.
Your parents, elder siblings, neighbors, teachers, and even strangers behave so lovingly with you.
This is why you have so many pleasant memories of your childhood.
You felt special.
Almost as if the whole world revolved around you.
Growing up, you still carry that belief in your heart. You think that you are the center of the universe and everybody revolves around you.
Of course, if you think about it logically, you know that that’s not true.
However, you live as though it is.
After all, your very mind has been shaped like that.
Plus, the ego wants you to feel important. It wants you to feel as though everyone pays attention to you and that you are the “star of the show.”
But living with this belief can make your life extremely hard.
First of all, it’s not true. ( unless you are famous and have to deal with the public eye..)
So, you’re basically living a lie.
Second, your whole life becomes an exercise trying to prove to others that you are worthy of their attention.
Your decisions, actions, choices, and everything else starts getting dictated by your perception of what others think about you.
In simpler words, your life isn’t yours anymore (at least in your head).
So, it’s only logical that you should stop thinking and living as though the world revolves around you.
If you need more convincing, however, I am going to talk about four very compelling reasons to do so.
1) You Will Be Less Shy
If you think about it, shyness comes from the fear of what other people might say or think about you.
You refrain from doing something because you fear ridicule.
Have you ever wondered what the root of this fear is?
Well, now you know. It’s your subconscious belief that you are the center of the universe.
It keeps you thinking that other people are paying undivided attention to your every action and word. You also feel like they care about what you do and how you do it.
Of course, this belief of yours is simply not true.
People aren’t paying nearly as much attention to you as you think.
In fact, most people aren’t even looking your way. And those who are might spend a few minutes looking at what you do before going back to what they were doing.
You see, everybody has their own life to live. They have their own dreams, struggles, challenges, and things to figure out.
Why would they spend their precious time and mental resources going over every single detail of your life? That simply doesn’t add up!
When you realize this, you will gradually stop thinking that the world revolves around you.
And when you do that, you won’t feel shy anymore. You won’t spend much time thinking about other people’s opinions.
And you will grow more confident in what you can do. This should be reason enough to change your belief.
2) It Makes You Open To Experimentation
This point is kind of an extension of the previous one.
When you realize that people aren’t paying much attention to you, you experience a kind of freedom that you have never experienced before.
In a way, you feel independent for the first time in life.
It is this feeling of freedom and independence that makes you open to trying out new things.
For example, let’s say you have always wanted to do a makeover.
This would involve changes in your hairstyle, clothes, makeup, nails, and other things about you.
But since you were always concerned about what others would say or think, you might have stopped yourself.
That desire was always there, but you kept denying yourself of something that you had every right of doing.
But when you realize that other people don’t care much, you become open to doing that makeover. You feel empowered to truly express yourself through your looks the way you see fit. This leads to a totally new experience.
Think about all the new experiences you might have denied yourself just because of your pesky belief.
Think about how much you could have grown as a result of these new experiences. Well, now you don’t need to think anymore.
You can take charge of your life and actually do everything you have ever wanted.
3) Dealing With Criticism Becomes Easier
Think about it.
When someone criticizes you, how do you feel?
You feel bad, correct?
You feel as though it’s a personal attack on you.
And you feel as though you are inadequate in some way.
After all, that’s why you made that “mistake,” right?
That’s why the other person said those mean things to you.
Well, the truth is, none of these things are actually true.
The reason you have all these thoughts and feelings is that you think that the world revolves around you.
You feel as though everyone is there to tend to your happiness.
Again, this is what you experienced in your childhood, and that’s what you expect to keep experiencing your whole life.
But the world eventually gives you a rude reminder of the truth.
The world doesn’t revolve around you, and people might not care for your happiness! You understand other people can have their own opinions and it is fine. So, they can say whatever they like, whether it is true or not.
Now, getting back to the criticism.
When you realize that you are not the center of the universe, you begin to understand that any criticism that you receive from others might not be about you.
When someone says mean things to you, it might be because they are just trying to prove themselves superior to you.
It might just be that they are trying to make themselves believe that their viewpoint is the right one. And all of it might not have anything to do with you!
With this understanding, it becomes much easier for you to handle criticism or other negative things that people throw at you.
You learn to not take things personally. And this feels like a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders.
4) It Helps You Understand Other People Better
Finally, when you stop thinking that the world revolves around you, you start understanding other people better (on a more human level).
This is because you suddenly start thinking from their perspective.
You start exploring in an unbiased manner why someone said what they said and why they did what they did.
For example, let’s say you go to a hospital and the nurse there is rude to you.
Now, knowing that you are not the center of her world, you start to think about why she was rude. Maybe she is having a bad day, maybe she is going through a rough patch in her life.
Or maybe, her boss scolded her for some reason, and she’s in a really bad mood.
The point is that you start putting yourself in other people’s shoes because you stop taking things personally.
And when you do that, you start understanding them better.
This can not only help you nurture strong personal relationships, but it can also help you understand human behavior on a subtler level.
You also start handling negative situations more calmly and with more compassion.
This is probably what the world needs more of right now.
How To Stop Thinking The world revolves around you
Now that you have understood how the shedding of this belief can help better your life, it is time to talk about how exactly you can do that.
Well, first of all, this won’t happen overnight.
Even though you might understand it on a logical level, your emotions will need some time to adjust.
Second, it will come with practice and constant reminders to yourself.
For example, if you are in a situation where you start feeling shy, remind yourself that there is no need to feel this way. Remind yourself that other people don’t care much about who you are and what you do.
And just force yourself to be and do what you want. Do the same thing whenever you want to do something new, and you feel that pesky hesitation trying to resurface.
You can also use post-it notes on your computer or on the wall of your room. They will serve as a constant reminder that “the world doesn’t revolve around you.”
Last, but certainly not least, you can use affirmations.
Affirmations are short statements that you keep repeating to yourself throughout the day.
Over time, they can reprogram your subconscious mind and establish new beliefs and patterns.
You can use affirmations like, “I am not the center of the universe,” “The world doesn’t revolve around me,” “I am so happy not being the center of people’s attention,” and so on.
I hope this article will help you. Our ego can often get in the way and prevent us from being happy. yes our ego is probbaly our worst enemy…..